"Those who find their life will lose it, and those who lose their life for my sake will find it."
I saw this on friendsfriends:
As someone who pretty much exemplifies passing, a feminine-looking bisexual woman who could drop out of sight without a problem, I care about the visibility of Pride parades. I know that some people don't appreciate the way the parades tend to show queerness at its "worst" - really flamboyant drag queens and naked people and leather and all kinds of sexual deviancy. But to me, those things are important to keep in mind, especially now, especially when we're starting to, well, blend.
Pride started as a memorial - a commemoration of the Stonewall riots. It started as a way to keep in mind the moment when we stopped being okay with being pushed around. And "we" in that place, at that time, were not well-dressed successful parents and members of society.
Unlike many in the queer community, I do strongly support the fight for gay marriage and gay adoption and gay acceptance in the mainstream. But I will never support furthering that goal by leaving behind those of us who aren't the mainstream, because they fought back first, and they still spend more time fighting than I ever will.
I sometimes hear those criticisms myself, and I never have good answers to them, in large part because I am a "Look, we're just like you" assimilationist, so the flamboyant parts of the parade don't particularly speak to my personal sense of community or goals (though I do think they're fun). But the history of Stonewall is so easy to forget.