I said, "They should carry a lighter, too, so we don't have to use up a whole box of matches." (The good big portable lighter we had had gone missing, and the remaining one had given up the ghost, so we were lighting candles with matches, and lighting tea candles you turn the match almost vertical to light it, so then the flame goes up the match and you wanna blow it out before you have time to light the next one. Very inefficient.)
She said, "When you get ordained we'll give you a knife and a box of matches. When Keith gets ordained we'll get him something different."
There's some positive psychology term for that, I'm sure -- about not talking about "if" something's going to happen but just planning for "when" it happens. I'm used to people asking me if I'm going to div school/seminary since church is like What I Do, and more recently people asking me if I've considered going into ministry (since in certain contexts/with certain people I'm really caring and nurturing, a sympathetic/supportive/patient listener, etc.), but to just say "when you get ordained." Yeah. I didn't interpret it in any sort of pressure-ful way (And it occurs to me on reflection that Keith's in an econ Ph.D. program, so he's about as far from ordination track as I am.) but it still took me a moment to react.
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