One of the big pieces of the ten days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur is that you reflect over the past year, and you attempt to (A) accept and forgive anything that has been done to you, and (B) apologize and ask forgiveness for anything you have done to others.***
Every year, I make this post, and people, er, rarely comment, but just enough do that it seems important to me to keep doing this, year after year.
Anonymous is enabled, and all comments are screened. If I've done anything to hurt you this year, let me know. If there's anything you think I might still be upset over, let me know that too. I won't unscreen unless you specifically request I do- or, well, I'll reply, but then I will re-screen immediately. (Er, if it's anon, I do not know if that's possible? But yes. I will try!) The goal isn't to start fresh- that's often not possible- but to acknowledge what has happened over this year (or any previous time, if you so choose) as an attempt to not have it happen again.
I promise to treat anything you say seriously and respectfully, and I will seriously be considering it over the next ten days.
At Rest and Bread tonight, we started a 3-week series on the poetry of Rumi.
Tonight's poem was "Be Melting Snow" (translated by Coleman Barks).
Title is from the penultimate stanza:
Be melting snow.Hi, I have been thinking about Rosh Hashanah a lot.
Wash yourself of yourself.
Keith mentioned various ways one might think about that stanza, including:
- cleansing yourself of false identities
- a state of in-between-ness
During the shared Reflection time, Marlin talked about "the bondage of self" -- and how trying to show people God in me still makes it all about me.
Ian H. talked about noise, about getting distracted and sidetracked by conversations that don't matter (i.e., the debates around Park51). And then during Prayer Time, he lifted up something like, "Everyone on both sides of all the strange arguments we find ourselves in," which really resonated with me for wholly unrelated reasons 'cause hi, the argument I found myself in this morning with [redacted, v.2], wherein we are (as we so often are, unfortunately) arguing about something that shifts the focus away from the underlying issues where we could actually be doing the work to make this relationship more life-giving for the both of us.
Yeah, I keep making these "screened comment" posts and then adding other content. Ideally, if you comment you would indicate whether unscreening is okay, but I'll probably use my discretion if you don't specify.