So just now I got an email from him:
Elizabeth,Last night, he was teasing me (but semi-seriously) that I should say "we" rather than "you" -- I countered that I say "we" in certain contexts, but that, for example, "you" do Communion once a month, because if I were in charge, we would do it every week -- the distanciation was very intentional :P
the attachment provides the details .. the only requirement for membership or assoc membership is willingness to follow Christ.
Assoc. members enjoy the full rights as members. The church recognizes their affiliation with another church.
So ... given your participation and leadership in our community .. I think it makes sense to really go from 'you' to 'we' don't you think???/ :-)