"To be human in the light of the gospel is to face conflict in redemptive dialogue" (Yoder, 13).
I took the residential route to CAUMC tonight and it reminded me so much of Norwood -- the two-family houses with lawns.... I say this as a good thing.
It didn't feel all that much shorter but was in fact probably ten minutes faster. I got to the church about five minutes of seven and actually asked the woman in the church office if it had been cancelled. Turned out Trelawney and Eric were just running late (she said usually she's there at six-thirty). She'd made a point to get vegetarian soup -- vegetarian
vegetable soup, 'cause regular vegetable soup has chicken broth. I noticed that the soup was tomato-based but didn't say anything 'cause I figured I could suck it up. While I wouldn't say I actively liked it, I didn't mind it too much. We also had grilled cheese and watermelon. Nice. [I've also gotta start having more filling lunches 'cause I came home hungry and made myself pasta+mushrooms+olives+pesto and was still hungry enough for that dinner at CAUMC and then I came home c. 10pm and had a yogurt.]
I'd worn long sleeves to work, but I got sweaty coming home plus I really wanted out of the bra I was wearing, so I changed into my Celebration t-shirt
for CAUMC. Trelawney loved it.
I never did type up my notes from last week.( briefCollapse )
The first chapter of the book is "Binding and Loosing" and Yoder doesn't do a great job of explaining what the original he's working off of is all about before he extrapolates. He quotes Matthew 18:15 and Matthew 18:18 but skipping the in between means one doesn't have a very good. The dense following chapter talks about forgiveness, reconciliation, and conflict resolution. After we'd read the chapter we looked at the full Biblical passage
at my request and Trelawney explained/clarified how Yoder got from that passage to his ideas in the chapter we read (which she had already kind of summed up/highlighted after we'd read it, which I much appreciated).
Yoder expands on the passage to argue that any conflict, big or small, should be dealt with directly: starting with just the people involved, but bringing in the broader community if necessary. He says the focus shouldn't be on punishing people but on getting conflicts resolved, even allowing for the possibility that "the community's standards [might need to be] modified" (5). He says it's very important that this be voluntary -- "a voluntary community whose members have committed themselves to its standards and to its practice [and w]here we can pursue reconciling confrontation because we trust one another and because we asked to be placed under this kind of loving guidance" (5). He mentions the "bands" of Wesley's time, which Trelawney elaborated on more: Wesley and a few others would meet weekly and talk about what sins they had been tempted by and strengthen each other and that this small group accountability spread and was the core of Methodism.( further notes -- mostly excerpts from the textCollapse )
At affirmations, Trelawney said that I was passionate about things and had a positive attitude about that passion. [My shirt was her exemplar for that.] She said it was infectious and also something else that I forget. Given how I'm used to thinking of myself as such a negative person in a lot of respects (that I don't like anything is a running joke, and I problematize everything, etc.) this definitely triggered internal laughter, followed by thoughts about how we are different in different environments. Being around HBS!Eric (and Terry) have definitely made me rethink my sense of myself as a negative person, so it isn't just
At dinner, Eric had asked me about Smith, and at affirmations he talked about how open I am, said something about there being "no barriers" in my talking about my life. Certainly most anyone who's ever looked at my LJ can attest to that, and probably ninety-five percent of the time I think it's a good thing. This is one of those instances of my finding someone's perceptions based on limited interaction/information interesting, though, because I really haven't talked that
much about me -- though thinking now, there's also the issue of how at ease someone seems sharing, even if they aren't actually sharing particularly intimate stuff (plus of course the fact that people have different thresholds of sharing comfort, so definitions of intimate/private/whatever vary).
For my own affirmation I talked about how I've been getting more involved in, well, life. I've been spending time with friends recently, and I'm looking ahead to fall classes and further home-ifying of my apartment and more time with friends (Ari and Sarah, I totally read and responded to your posts shortly before heading out to CAUMC) plus of course I'm doing the bookstudy.
I got an invitation to their wedding
Having looked at the map and it being fairly intuitive, I got to CAUMC with no wrong turns. Coming home, though, I totally went the wrong direction on Chandler, so I ended up on Wallace looking at the Davis T Station and Orleans. Oops.