April 5th, 2008

professional me, self

"we your people, ours the journey..."

I woke up a few times this morning (had kind of weird dreams) but didn't get up until almost noon.  I felt kinda tired even after I'd been up for a bit, but thankfully that passed.  And I did manage to do laundry, buy groceries, and wash dishes before I left for the wedding.

Looking around the sanctuary for where to sit, I saw Michelle, which was a pleasant surprise -- a close friend of hers died suddenly this past Sunday, so I wasn't sure she'd be attending the wedding.  She said she was glad to have something like this to think about in the midst of everything else.  When I saw her she was sitting with Jess and Sue, and they asked if I wanted them to make room, and she said she was actually sitting farther back with Amy and Asha, so I had the option of where to sit; Michelle said "I would appreciate the snuggles" (phrased totally non-guilt-trippy... just as like a point of interest) so my decision was a bit of a no-brainer.

The two hymns were "Joyful, Joyful, We Adore Thee" and "In the Midst of New Dimensions."  Yay!  I was recalling that I was introduced to the latter at First Churches Northampton and how much I love it and how rarely I've sung it since even with over a year at CWM.  The Choral Anthem was "Ubi Caritas" -- which always makes me think of Emmanuel Lutheran (Taize) evening prayer service; I'm so ecumenical/churched :)

The readings were Kahlil Gibran's "Friendship" (which has the interesting bit "When you part from your friend, you grieve not; For that which you love most in him may be clearer in his absence, as the mountain to the climber is clearer from the plain.") and 1 Corinthians 13:1-8a.

I liked that in the Meditation Gary talked about how the idea of your partner "completing" you is problematic.  I think it can be a useful idea, but it can also be misused.  He explicitly named them both as whole and complete and full persons in themselves.

The last wedding I was at (in the same sanctuary, to boot) was Eric and Trelawney's, which was huge, so it was interesting to see this one where there was just the one Maid of Honor and Best Man -- no other members of the wedding party standing up there with them.

The reception was at Anthony's on Highland.  I was sitting mostly with people I already knew from CAUMC small group, but I'm not really good at initiating socializing (especially 'cause I don't really have anything interesting to say in response to "So what have you been up to?").  I totally should have gone over and said hi to Megan and Andrew (who moved to Pennsylvania last spring? summer?) during one of the many lulls.

Mike and Meredith have lots of vocally talented friends and family, and one of the first people to do karaoke (yes, they had a DJ and karaoke for their reception) was some good singer guy (Bernard?) doing "Night and Day," but soon after these two guys, Jeff and Bob (?), did "I Got You Babe" and were totally not good singers but that was like part of the schtick, and Jenny and Jess and I were like, "Yes, that is how karaoke should be done."  A fair amount of people did upbeat songs, and the three of us danced a lot (When Michelle jokingly asked when people were gonna start taking their shoes off I remembered soundingsea asking me, "Weren't you the last dancer standing at Writercon II? :)").  Michelle did Tina Turner's "Proud Mary," which was awesome.

Oh, and apparently it's traditional that you can clink your glass to make the bride and groom kiss?  (Possibly this happened at Eric and Trelawney's wedding as well, but what I remember from that one was the family tradition from the bride's side that if you want to see the bride and groom kiss you have to share a story about them or whatever.)  Smith trained me to hear clinking glasses as "Your attention please: announcement," but it just generally feels so bizarre to me that you get to, and are in fact encouraged to, force the bride and groom to kiss.  I get that it's part of the spectacle of a public celebration and it's not like they don't want to kiss each other, but in any other situation I'm voyeuristic and creepy for wanting people to get it on for my pleasure.