You follow desire, and you are not satisfied.
Again you follow desire, and again you are not satisfied.
Again you try, and again you are not satisfied.
-Lama Zopa Rinpoche, "Transforming Problems Into Happiness"
And as a purely hypothetical, because i'm interested in what people find important, if i were to get involved with a 35-year-old married man, what would be the problem with that?
the fact that he's 16 years older than i am
the fact that he's married
both of the above are equally problematic
there's no problem