Yeah, probably not 'cause he's hella busy and I'm never on AIM (though this is less true than it used to be). Can you believe it's been 4 years? [Edit: No, 5; my math was right the first time.] I've been busy enough with my own life to not be too piney about the fact that we haven't been in touch, and then tonight he IMs me, v. in media res (though we did have a conversation fairly recently -- though I apparently missed at least one important memo) and it feels perfectly natural (because this is how we operate), and he is so comfortingly the same.
He's signed on for another year at Tulane, so maybe I'll get down to visit him next year. And how good is it to hear that you're missed? I was reminded of Allie and Rebecca.... that somehow we have this love even though we so rarely talk.