every week is ibarw

[AKA Jessica Jones] 1.01-1.13

I started marathoning this after I got home this afternoon, except I thought it was only 9 episodes -- so when I hit episode 10 and it was midnight I was kinda regretting my choice. So I definitely don't have a lot of brain atm. Edit: [Edited to add more commentary after some sleep and backreading on Tumblr now that I can take "jessica jones" off my blacklist. This post covers a bunch of the thoughts I had.] /edit

One of my early thoughts was: This show is as dark as the gif sets I see on Tumblr indicate Daredevil to be -- but it's full of ladies! Edit: (Including canon queerness -- where the queerness isn't the primary character/plot element about the characters. I appreciate that the background feels more multi-racial than MCU/tv often does, but the primary cast is still primarily white -- and here's some good critical commentary about some the problematic racial dynamics of the season.) /edit

I also appreciate that it does some work deconstructing the Nice Guy trope -- and does some important stuff around consent. Edit: (I concur with the stuff I'd read before watching the show about how if you have a history of sexual assault, or abuse generally, this show is highly likely to trigger you. Not only is Kilgrave's mind control a stand-in for mundane abuse dynamics, but the show also does a lot around manipulating/controlling/abusing people even when you don't have superpowers to enforce it. There are also some serious elements of family abuse, which I didn't really see mentioned in the initial buzz around the show.) /edit

Edit2: This post -- and lots of the stuff about "Smile" incl. e.g. this and this, and this on catcalling; and this on believing victims. /edit
apples and honey

[5776] "it was all worth it to me"

I've been thinking of the Ani DiFranco song "hour follows hour" recently:
and maybe the most that we can do
is just to see each other through it
we make our own gravity to give weight to things
then things fall and they break and gravity sings
we can only hold so much is what i figure
try and keep our eye on the big picture
picture keeps getting bigger
and too much is how i love you
but too well is how i know you
and i've got nothing to prove this time
just something to show you
i guess i just wanted you to see
that it was all worth it to me
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As has become my custom, reposting this from Amy:
One of the big pieces of the ten days between Rosh Hashanah and Yom Kippur is that you reflect over the past year, and you attempt to (A) accept and forgive anything that has been done to you, and (B) apologize and ask forgiveness for anything you have done to others.

[...]

Anonymous is enabled, and all comments are screened. If I've done anything to hurt you this year, let me know. If there's anything you think I might still be upset over, let me know that too. I won't unscreen unless you specifically request I do [...] The goal isn't to start fresh- that's often not possible- but to acknowledge what has happened over this year (or any previous time, if you so choose) as an attempt to not have it happen again.

I promise to treat anything you say seriously and respectfully, and I will seriously be considering it over the next ten days.
***

From Scott: "May your 5776 be as sweet as it is square."
glam

[RSC] The Merchant of Venice [2015-09-05]

In the melting pot of Venice, trade is God. With its ships plying the globe, the city opens its arms to all—as long as they come prepared to do business and there is profit to be made. When the gold is flowing all is well, but when a contract between Bassanio and Shylock is broken, simmering racial tensions boil over. A wronged father and despised outsider, Shylock looks to exact the ultimate price for a deal sealed in blood.

Polly Findlay directs Shakespeare's uncompromising play, with Makram J. Khoury, one of the most celebrated actors in Israel, in his Royal Shakespeare Company debut as Shylock.

[from ArtsEmerson] [RSC link]
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defy

Girl Meets World 1.01-1.07

I am definitely kind of burnt-out and in need of a vacation. (I've had a pretty good summer, but I've definitely been noticing myself feeling not super into working on stuff, so I think it's low-level burn-out. It's also possible that I'll feel better once the school year starts up and I'm busier, so weekends are a balance between suspecting I'll feel better if I'm productive vs. suspecting I'll feel better if I give myself some sabbath.)

I finally got Netflix, and inspired by escritoireazul's post, I watched a bunch of Girl Meets World. (And then proceeded to comments dump in her entry.)

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moar bike lanes pls

driving practice #24: getting better at parallel parking

Having learned from last time, the plan tonight was that I would drive wherever I wanted and FCS-Ian would read facebook on his phone. He was remarkably attentive to what I was doing, though -- like, could give me detailed critique about why/how I'd ended too far out from the curb when pulling into the space or whatever.

My first attempt tonight was good but room for improvement. My second one was perfect.

The rest of the night was a mix. After having gotten good [tonight] at parallel parking behind a vehicle when there was no vehicle behind me, I got way less good at parallel parking between spaces. I got better again -- though having a car over to my left also makes me nervous (yay, narrow streets!). But my last 2 parallel parks were perfect! \o/

And FCS-Ian commented multiple times during the night that I seemed to be operating a lot more intuitively -- parallel parking was more of a single step ("to parallel park") rather than a 3-step process ... which was a little problematic because I was paying less attention to the individual steps, but I was also developing some intuition about how to fix things.
moar bike lanes pls

driving practice #23: getting better at parallel parking

FCS-Ian and I did driving practice this afternoon. More traffic than we were expecting, on the residential side streets we were attempting to practice parallel parking on, which made it challenging. After a while, he reminded me that I tend to do better when I'm making the decisions and he's not talking to me all the time, so he told me to just pick streets and spots to try, and he wouldn't say anything (unless, e.g., I had the wheel turned the wrong way when I was about to reverse and thus would be about to hit another car). Apparently his checking facebook etc. while I was doing this was not just because he trusts me but also to keep him from talking -- but he did trust me enough that he could be on his phone most of the time. And I definitely got better as we went along. (And after like the 3rd time I consistently remembered which way to turn the wheel -- to my right when reversing to parallel park on my righthand side -- which I have no optimism I'll remember next time, hence writing it down now so I can refresh my memory before we go next time.)
moar bike lanes pls

driving practice #22: I'm good at k-turns now?

FCS-Ian and I were gonna go driving yesterday before church, but after much back and forth we ended up rescheduling to 7:30pm tonight. Now that it's still light out at that hour, it works well (after his kids are in bed, etc.).

He'd had a lot of coffee today, which was fine except that he wasn't super-focused and so would be like "pull over here" practically as we were passing something, and I need to get better at being like, "Explain to me exactly what you're about to ask me to do" (and make sure I actually understand! like have the correct visualization) instead of just following his instructions and ending up being llike, "Yes, I totally overshot that, in part because I had literally no idea where I was supposed to be aiming." (I reminded him at the beginning that last time we spent the first half on the street and the second half in a parking lot and realized after we were done that it would have been much more effective to have started in a parking lot. He decided that we would drive until we found an acceptable parking lot -- since our usual would probably be full/busy -- and I was fine with getting street practice, but e.g. "drive until forever, don't worry about turning" followed almost immediately by telling me to turn somewhere is suboptimal.)

Near the beginning, he commented that my actual driving was fine -- that I haven't put in a lot of actual hours on the road, but I've improved significantly since I started. And near the end (driving back to my house) he commented that I'm much more confident driving when I know where I'm going, to which I said that we learned this when I drove through the Powder House Rotary of Death at like 4pm on a holiday.

At the end, he said I'm doing great with k-turns (aka, 3-point turns -- which, along with parallel parking, was what I'd said I felt stood between me and passing the road test).